“The sexiest thing is trust.” –Jamaica Inn by Tori Amos
What a learning curve I have when it comes to matters of the heart. Particularly long distance relationships.
I used to think being apart was somehow wildly romantic. And being an independent sort, I relished the idea of plenty of time to myself with the promise of passion to come. Suspended sensuousness, prolonged moments like a dreamy montage accompanying the adage, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
Short periods away from a loved one can be all that. But six months?! I stare that marathon of time down and wonder if I have the stamina to go the distance. Or if he does.
Silky experienced long periods of separation in two of her five marriages. When Fairbanks was still married to Mary Pickford, Doug often left Sylvia in London for months at a time to tend to United Artists’ business in the states. World War II was raging when she met Lord Stanley and they spent more time apart than together during their short union. So how did she manage it?
First, I suppose it requires honest communication. A bold and consistent dialogue must be maintained because really what else is there during this trial? An uncanny level of trust is also needed. It’s necessary for both parties to have confidence in each other, but also a huge leap of faith—a conviction of destiny.
The fact remains that only time will tell, even if all of these prerequisites are loyally met. So I guess it’s just a waiting game now filled with hope and faith that whatever is meant to be will be, despite all our best efforts. Ain’t love grand?!